Daddy made book launch a big deal #blog #blogging

The day could not come any faster after the night before. I slept well and had dreamed an event packed with people having fun. I’m not sure how you could have fun with a serious subject to discuss though. I was determined it would be a celebration of triumphing, overcoming not just for me but for my co- speakers.

You see we had planned ahead that it was time to share the stories of some much overlooked people in the community, only in this case Komal and Caroline happened to be close friends of mine. They had also suffered previously and had a passion to stop others experiencing same. Delightful and beautiful Asian models in their own right over the last month, met with each other and me to discuss how best to present their stories. You can imagine they individually have had to go through and how nerve wracking it would be to have to sit or stand in front of a forgiving audience some of whom might glare or stare at them all the while.

We were all excited and I think the social media channels had been blasted with words like ‘coming soon’ #beautifullyflawed #breakthesilence #pentoprint, photos and videos and much more. There were retweets, shares, comments, posts, Instagram hashtags and you name it, we found ways including banners to share word that domestic violence matters was coming to the agenda in the community of Barking and Dagenham.

Riddled but not labelled one of the boroughs with the highest recorded incidences of domestic violence, it seemed fitting that a community-oriented platform to address the matter was apt and timely.

Watch “I blame my parents” @BBC 3 on 20/01/19

There are too many cases of cyber bullying and suicide among our youths!

It’s time someone or some people started talking…

Follow us into our private lives as we share our struggles, mine as a parent to my lovely Dami; and my daughter as a young adult.

#Mentalhealth issues are alarmingly on the increase and not talked about much. I was too busy to see what was happening in my own home.

“I blame my parents” (an interesting hook) is the title of this @BBC documentary where communication skills with my beautiful daughter is “put under the microscope”. We talked about church and God’s influence on healing too (hope that gets in…😂)

Beautifully Flawed, My new #book out on #Amazon

Divorce is never an easy subject to talk about and it takes it toll on the parties involved, especially the children and wider family and social networks. I pray you never have to take this route and that your relationship does not take a violent turn…

Does God procrastinate? #Blog #Blogging

So when He finally answers the call, after a few, 4 days, when it was too late, he meets with accusation. Martha said “if you had been here, my brother would not have died” but her sister, Mary came to kneel at His feet acknowledging his lordship and says the same words. The words were similar but reactions very different.

Could it be that they both knew a different Jesus individually? Actually it seems we were given some insight into how Mary had loved to sit at Jesus feet, worshipping Him. Martha added that the body had a bad odour at this time.

Time for a change #blog #blogging

My thoughts were: What? How come? How is that a solution? Really? Is that what this is all about? A whole maze of confusing words, images flashed before me. It took me a while to respond as I think I had my mouth open… After I recollected my thoughts, I asked for some time to think through the request, a valid one, since I had to drive back to pick the 3 beauties on my usual school run.

Another sleepless night. Not sure what conversations I had with God that night as I was still shocked at the turn of events. You can imagine what it was like to feel the rug was being pulled out from under your feet or your world has just dropped.

I remember at some point coining the phrase, “stop the world, I want to get off”

Draw your own box! #blog #blogging

I think we are going to run out of boxes to choose from, when it comes to origin and ethnicity?? Very soon. 😂😂

Maybe we can just accept people as they are and find other useful indicators to measure?

Going #Afro? #blog #blogging

Imagine how in this day and age technology begins to reveal myth-shattering ideaologies, ground-breaking discoveries that shake the very foundations of what we have held true for so many years. In this day and age people still say to children under 25, “Go back to where you come from!”

What is the correct answer to that I wonder? This young person say they replied “I was born here” to the shock of the other person. I think maybe I would have said something like, “where is that then?”

Anyhow technology, archaeology and DNA typing suggests the existence of the cheddar man – a mixed featured dark-skinned individual blue eyes that some have argued against for reasons best known to them.

Is she the right one? #blog #blogging

So I was attending a wedding 🎩 👰 where the bride and groom were about to exchange their vows. The minister asked for the one giving her away and her father came forward claiming it was him. The minister asked if he was happy with the proceedings so far because another previous ceremony had left the father of the bride then, quite upset. This father said he was.

Next the minister asked the groom to lift up the veil to check if he had the right woman at the altar. The congregation burst into rapturous laughter as he reminded us this was not the first time a bride 👰 had been switched for the groom.

Finance lessons taught by Mummy! #blog #blogging

My mum noticed that we would sit on the fence outside the house and buy anything the “street hawkers” were peddling so that when the day was up, or rarely, week was up we were broke. For some reason I started learning to save my money as I was not sure about our spending. I would then bail out or help others if they needed money.

What I like best was that my mum studied our spending patterns and realised (market research) we were spending on sweets and worked out the type of sweets we bought by asking – survey.

That’s how we began to run a sweet shop in the store of mummy’s kitchen.

Living with mum, can be fun but… #blog

Her wisdom surpasses mine in so many ways. She’s seen it all, “almost,” so when she says to go to Costco and buy in bulk to save it deserves more than a cursory nod of the head in agreement. I take her point. She’s so right about these things.